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me - truth AND exaggeration

wouldn't YOU like 2 know which?!

as a woman
as a woman, what attracts me 2 a man is NOT (contrary 2 its popularity) a masculine swagger, verbal or physical bravado, or even a certain prowess with women. i am highly attracted 2 men who r comfortable "in their own skins". an honest, genuine realism about their abilities and flaws is very appealing 2 me. he doesn't have 2 be "GQ material" (i.e., model face, athletically fit, or "sharp" dressed). he just has 2 care about himself, as well as others. he doesn't have 2 "divide and conquer", but should be completely capable of standing up 4 what and who he believes in. needless 2 say, there should actually be things and people that he does believe in. he does not have 2 strongly voice his opinions, but he should be fully able 2 express them, when necessary. he does not have 2 break down in tears, but be utterly capable of emotion (and tears) when the situation calls 4 it. he does not need 2 go out of his way 2 express kindness and compassion, but they definitely should make themselves evident in his observed interactions with others. he does not have 2 be an intense intellectual who constantly contemplates the universe or his place in it, but he should be capable of carrying on a conversation about these topics without adding a lot of "um"s and having his eyes glaze over in confusion. this is "just the tip of the iceberg", as they say, in reference 2 what i find attractive in the male species. mostly bcos what i find attractive is as individual as i am,...and as each man is.

Writer's Block: Happy happy joy joy
What cheers you up the most when life gets you down?

the knowledge that life never remains stagnant. it always changes. ironically tho, this is also the knowledge that can "get me down" in the first place.

Writer's Block: I scare myself
What is your greatest fear?

my greatest fear is of losing any and all feeling, of returning 2 and of remaining incapable of feeling emotion of any kind. i have been in that void, an earthly hell, two times in my life. i do not wish for a third, as i fear it would not be a "charm". my greatest fear, even greater than ever experiencing that again, is the hellish notion that it could become a permanent state of existence.

Writer's Block: A riddle wrapped in a mystery inside an enigma
What message would you put into a fortune cookie?

If you've resorted 2 looking 4 answers in a fortune cookie, things must be very bad 4 u!

Writer's Block: Prone to puns
How would you describe your sense of humor in six words or less?

An acquired taste, like loving cinnamon.

(no subject)
i want 2 address an issue that i was exposed 2 today. celebrities, especially ones who are popular, should not make public statements, no matter how general they may appear, that are thoughtless and inconsiderate in nature. there are people out there who, even though they definitely should not, will take it personally and may be deeply affected by it. just imagine a possible, but hypothetical, statement like "just get over it and move on" being heard or read by an impressionable preteen or teenager who just lost his/her entire family. Or, 2 someone with severe health and/or mental health issues. i realize that celebrities r people 2. they make mistakes, but with their fame and popularity also comes a responsibility (so i believe) 2 learn 2 think before they speak publicly. and fyi: social networks, especially in this day and age, are very public forums.

Writer's Block: My Dream Job
What's your dream job? Are you qualified for it? If not, would that stop you from taking it if it were offered to you?

my dream job is 2 be a psychological counselor. i dream of, 1 day, working with children who are in need of psychological counseling and guidance. i am working, as we speak, towards the degree that will assist me in achieving this dream goal. i have had many personal issues and stumbling blocks that, once, held me back from following this dream. but, i feel that i am finally "coming into myself", as a person, and that i am actually capable and secure enough in my efficiency 2 do a good job and 2 help at least some of these troubled and traumatized children in our world. if we can save our children, we may be able 2 save our future. at least, that is my grand hope.

Writer's Block: TMI
If you had the opportunity to know everything about the person you love, would you take it? Or would you avoid the possibility of getting hurt?

this question is a bit confusing 4 me. the way i c it, just bcos you DO know a lot about someone does NOT mean that they will NOT hurt u. and, by the same token, just bcos u do NOT know much about someone does NOT mean that they WILL hurt u. however, i also believe that, once 2 people learn a great deal about each other, there is a comfortable complacency and a false sense of security that can (and often DOES) develop between them. "i...have become...comfortably numb", as Pink Floyd expresses. there is NO way 2 avoid being or "getting hurt" in ANY relationship. ALL relationships have painful moments in them, but it is the pain that reminds us that we care. no pain = no feeling/caring = no love. but, we must also remember that MANY ppl tend 2 HIDE their pain (especially from the pain bringer), and some r much more experienced and proficient at doing this than others.

Writer's Block: Top Three
What three qualities do you like most about yourself, and why? What qualities do you like least?

the three qualities that i like most about me r: 1)my independence, 2)my "genuineness", and 3) my compassion/empathy.
y? bcos: my independence was hard-earned and it sees me through many "tests", my "genuineness" helps me 2 naturally "weed out" any "undesirables" and 2 be accepted and loved 4 who i AM (n not 4 who others WANT me 2 be) and my compassion/empathy helps me 2 actually be a HUMAN BEING (and not a rock).

the three qualities that i dislike most about me r: 1) my tenacity (yes, this can and has caused me some problems), 2) my tendency 2 ALWAYS side with the "underdog" (it has led me 2 be ever-unpopular, at times) and 3) my sentimentality towards certain people, places and things (it has hindered my forward progression, at times).

Writer's Block: Nature v. nurture
In your opinion, how much of our personality is genetic, and how much is shaped by environmental factors?

well. i am far from being an expert on this subject. but, i think that, for each person, it is a unique combination of those factors, among other factors not included in ur question, that determines the sum of any present individual. since i am a poet, i tend 2 think of most things with a metaphoric relativity. (ok. the half of u, stop groaning! n the other half, stop chuckling!) the metaphor i tend 2 think of is a comparison of people 2 snowflakes. no 2 are EXACTLY alike. they may come from the same processes and the same snowfall (genetics=processes and families=snowfalls), but the wind, temperature, condensation levels, etc.(environmental factors), change the design of each one and make it unique. from a distance, they all appear the same. but, upon closer examination, we have discovered that they r actually quite unique in their make-up. even a person's fingerprints r unique and strictly identify a particular individual, as well as their DNA does. people who r related have very SIMILAR DNA, and can even have similar fingerprints. but, NO 2 individuals (related or not) have exactly the SAME DNA, or fingerprints. thus we are ALL beautifully unique, but yet the same. hence, the witty phrase: "Remember. You are unique, just like everybody else." sorry 4 the TOO-LONG response, but after all....u asked 4 it! lol. :)